About Me
I came to this work through lived experience. The learning came later.
My Story
When my daughter was in deep crisis, she told me she no longer wanted to be here.
I was terrified. I felt helpless, overwhelmed and utterly unprepared for what we were facing. I searched everywhere for answers, desperate to find something that might help her.
What I couldn't see at the time was just how much of my own history I was bringing into those moments.
My childhood was marked by trauma and experiences that shaped how I came to understand myself, my relationships and the world around me. I learned to adapt, to protect myself, and to find ways of managing feelings I didn't yet have the capacity to understand.
I carried much of this into adulthood, without fully recognising how deeply it had influenced my life.
When my daughter began to struggle, something in me was profoundly activated. I wanted desperately to protect her, to take away her pain, to find the answers that would make everything okay.
I didn't yet understand how much of that urgency was coming from my own fear.
Discovering Conscious Parenting was the beginning of a different kind of journey.
For the first time, I began to look inward with genuine curiosity. To explore my conditioning, the protective patterns I'd developed, and the ways my past continued to influence my experience of the present.
It wasn't always comfortable. Sometimes it was extraordinarily painful.
Gradually, though, as I learned to meet myself with greater compassion, something began to soften.
I became more able to recognise my own fear without being entirely consumed by it. To listen without immediately needing to respond. To allow my daughter her own experience, without losing myself in the desperate need to change it.
What began as a search for ways to help my daughter became an unexpected journey of remembering and reconnecting with myself.
That journey continues.
I'm still learning, still discovering, and increasingly recognising that the answers I spent so long searching for outside myself were never entirely out there.
There was wisdom within me, too.
I just needed to learn how to listen.
What I've Come to Understand
For much of my life, I didn't realise just how profoundly my thoughts, beliefs and past experiences were shaping the way I saw myself and the world around me.
I believed so much of what my mind was telling me. I became caught up in stories about who I was, what might happen, what I needed to do, and how life was supposed to unfold.
It's taken time, and a great deal of inner exploration, to begin recognising that I am not those stories.
I've come to understand how much of our experience is filtered through our conditioning, our fears and the ways we've learned to protect ourselves.
Yet beneath all of that, I believe there is something deeper. An awareness, a presence, something within us that isn't defined by our experiences or the stories we've come to believe about ourselves.
Our True Self.
I'm discovering that reconnecting with this part of ourselves isn't necessarily about doing more, learning more or becoming someone different.
Sometimes it's about allowing ourselves to be exactly where we are.
Noticing our thoughts without becoming lost in them. Meeting our fears with curiosity rather than resistance. Making room for the feelings we've spent so much of our lives trying to avoid.
I still get caught up in my own thinking. I still experience fear, uncertainty and the familiar pull of old patterns.
But I'm learning that I don't have to fix myself in order to find peace.
I can begin simply by being here.
Present with whatever life is bringing, and increasingly open to the possibility that there is wisdom in allowing life to unfold, rather than constantly trying to control it.
The Work I Share
Over the years, what began as a deeply personal journey has gradually evolved into work that I feel enormously grateful to share with others.
My experiences have led me to explore the relationship between trauma, conditioning, emotional safety and the ways we connect with ourselves and one another.
I'm a Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, trained in Conscious Parenting with Dr Shefali, and my approach is also informed by Internal Family Systems, somatic awareness and contemplative teachings.
Yet some of my most important learning continues to come from life itself.
From being a mother, a partner, a daughter and, above all, a human being navigating the uncertainties, challenges and extraordinary possibilities of being alive.
Much of my work is devoted to supporting parents who are finding their way through difficult and sometimes frightening experiences with their children.
I've developed S.A.F.E. Practice™, a trauma-informed framework to help parents find steadiness, reconnect with themselves and respond with greater presence and compassion when things feel overwhelming.
I've also created A Place to Land, a private space offering individual, ongoing written support for parents who need somewhere to bring what they're carrying, without judgement, pressure or the expectation that they should have everything figured out.
Alongside this, I write, speak and share conversations about conscious parenting, trauma, healing, awareness and what it means to live more authentically.
I don't see my work as having answers for other people.
It's about coming alongside them, creating space for curiosity, compassion and connection, and trusting in the wisdom that can emerge when we feel safe enough to explore our own experience.
Beyond the Work
Away from my work, I'm happiest doing some of the simplest things.
Long walks on the beach with Mojo, my Labrador. Being behind a camera, noticing the light, the little details and moments that might otherwise pass me by. Travelling, discovering new places and experiencing different ways of life.
Music has always been an important part of my world, and I love making it as much as listening to it.
Writing, too, is something I return to again and again, both as a way of expressing myself and making sense of the world.
I love the freedom to explore, to create, to be curious, and to find beauty in the ordinary.
People & Teachings That Have Inspired Me
My journey has been enriched by the work and wisdom of many people, each of whom has helped me explore different aspects of what it means to be human.
Among those who have particularly influenced me are Dr Shefali Tsabary, Dr Gabor Maté, Richard Schwartz, Tara Brach and Eckhart Tolle.
Their teachings, alongside my professional training and lived experience, continue to shape my understanding of ourselves, our relationships and the possibility of living with greater awareness and compassion.
I'm deeply grateful for all I've learned, and for the understanding that continues to unfold.
People & Teachings That Have Inspired Me
My journey has been enriched by the work and wisdom of many people, each of whom has helped me explore different aspects of what it means to be human.Among those who have particularly influenced me are Dr Shefali Tsabary, Dr Gabor Maté, Richard Schwartz, Tara Brach and Eckhart Tolle.
Their teachings, alongside my training in Compassionate Inquiry, Conscious Parenting and other trauma-informed approaches, have helped shape my understanding of ourselves, our relationships and the possibility of living with greater awareness and compassion.
I'm deeply grateful for all I've learned, and for the understanding that continues to unfold through my own lived experience.
An Invitation
If you've found your way here, I'm glad you have.
This little corner of the world is somewhere I share the things that matter to me. My experiences, my reflections, my creative explorations, and the questions I'm still living my way into.
Some of what you'll find here comes from the more difficult chapters of my life. Some comes from moments of discovery, connection, joy and wonder.
All of it is part of the same unfolding journey.
I hope something you encounter here resonates with you, offers a different perspective, or simply reminds you that we're all finding our way, each in our own way.
Thank you for being here.
With love,
Teri x